Tuesday, July 15, 2008

I've always been a stubborn child

My mom will say that without a doubt. And I've grown into a stubborn mama. Despite all the warnings I am receiving, I will continue to:

> Hold the angel for as long as she wants even after my left arm has long gone dead.
> Sleep with her snuggled safely and sometimes sweatily next to me
> Feed her safe adult food without pureeing everything into ambiguous mush.
> Run like a mad woman to her side if she calls out for me, no matter how calmly she calls.
> Not let her cry if she is unhappy.
> Happily stick my boob into her mouth whenever she wants it, without the convenience? of sterilizing pumps, bottles, and nipples.
> Not go anywhere that she can't, like the hot club with the everybody-will-be-there-party.
> Refuse to confine her to a playpen.
> Let her suck on her pacifier if that is what she wants.

But OH NO! She will get too attached to you!

REALLY??? HOW TERRIBLE!!! A baby who loves to be with her mama?? It is the end of civilization as we know it! Call the ... ahhh... I dunno.. somebody to fix it.

Yes, I am making my bed. And oh how soft, snuggly, and perfectly comfy it is :)


Tash said...

Lie in it chick! As long as your bed is made with sheets you like it's nobody's business. Just take everyone's advice in good spirits.

You're doing a great job so far, and perhaps I might have done some things differently, but there are things I'd change if I could go back, and there are pages I'd take out of your book too - so continue to raise your daughter confident in your parenting style and trusting your instincts!

Call you this weekend to link up.

BlueBella said...

Tash is right . . .You are the Mama and this is your right! We all get to make choices about motherhood and how we want to do it and I think you are doing a wonderful job! There are certainly things on your list I would love to have as part of my own but due to necessity cannot. The one thing I will try to change with Angelfish is the boob part - I can't wait to breastfeed her.

Plus, there's nothing better than a wee person who loves her Mama! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

Scary Mommy said...

I love this post!! I could not agree more. God forbid your child be attached you. I say this as I lay in bed with my 7 month old next to me. If that's the worst we do as mothers, we're doing ok :)

Poppa PJ said...

How much I can relate to um everything said... except I'm the crazy stay at home dad.. I could complain like oh another day another 50 cents at work today or be freaking out cause I'm late for another meeting... But I revel in the fact I can watch this lil 2 1/2 year old girl amaze me with what once was happening with all of us at that age.. They are us and we were them. I be out with this for you - A friend of mine read a poem to me recently named "my parents F___ked me up"! Don't let em do it to you... Do U

Anonymous said...


I agree with everyone. At the end of the day, this is your time to be a Mummy - your life, your choices. You get all the responsibilty, so I think its only fair that you raise your kids whichever way you want.

It also changes with each child you add to the mix. Not that you're less dedicated or anything, but when you have a 2 year old who also needs love, attention, food, stimulation, pool/park time, little baby sometimes has to sacrifice a bit.

People always mean well with all of the advice though it may sound like critcism....and you might find in hindsight (as we all do) that there are things you might have done differently.Your daughter is so cute !

Tash said...

Sorry didn't make it down - procrastination bit me in the ass so had to stay home and get work done. Grrr! Trust me, the thought of you'll down there was making it even harder to focus.

Tiffany said...

I found your blog from Liz Garrett at Root and Sprout.

I have 2 kiddos, one is 3 and the other is 6 months. With number 1 I did everything by the book, sleeping in her own bed was the biggest thing. With number 2 I was a bit more relaxed, she still slept in her own bed but I did not stress it when she ended up in our bed. Now that she is 6 months old and I have gone back to work I miss nap times with the newborn. The 3 year old would be asleep in her bed and I would nurse the newborn until she fell asleep (in my bed) then scoot her away from me and we would sleep happily next to each other. I told my husband it is a good thing we don't have a king size bed because Lily would end up in our bed a lot more often.

mommykerrie said...

i just love you! found you through an api.org blog and i agree with your comment about your maya wrap making your shoulder hurt! i recently wore mine for 7 hours at seaworld! come see me sometime ... thekerrieshow.blogspot.com. used to be called attached travel widow b/c we do AP and my husband is always gone for work.